Toxic Relationships: Recognizing and Moving Past Domestic Violence

Notice the Red Flags.

October 21, 2019

Toxic relationships can creep up by degrees, like a pot coming slowly to boil. What starts as jealousy slowly escalates, drawing victims away from family and friends. Finances might become controlled. Isolation slowly sets in. 

Verna Griffin-Tabor, CEO and Executive Director of Center for Community Solutions has heard these stories before. While each individual experience is unique, there are some red flags she sees repeated over and over again in her career assisting survivors of domestic violence. 

1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime, and (while national statistics are still developing) it's believed that 1 in 12 men will also be victims. The trauma of domestic violence knows no cultural or economic boundaries. It is indiscriminate, but it is preventable.

CCS is on a mission to teach youth about healthy relationships, empower people to make healthy decisions for themselves and their relationships, and provide resources - shelter, legal assistance, therapy and more - to those fleeing violence. 

In this interview with Verna Griffin-Tabor, we talk about what it means to plan for safe-escape, the ways we educate the public about consent and healthy relationships, how to be an ally to survivors, and what resources are available to both women and men searching for help. 

If you are experiencing domestic violence in your life, you are not alone. Center for Community Solutions is planting seeds of hope and healing with no blame, no judgment and no insistence about what YOUR path should be. 

The hotline is open 24 hours - 1-888-DVLinks (1-888-385-4657).

Susan DeVinent (left) Vee Griffin Tabor (center) Evonne Ermey (right)