Hilary Duff Shares Message About Breastfeeding at Work

Her note is a candid and supportive letter to moms.

May 9, 2019
BROOKLYN, NY - JUNE 04: Hilary Duff attends the "Younger" Season 5 Premiere Party at Cecconi's Dumbo on June 4, 2018 in Brooklyn, New York. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images)

BROOKLYN, NY - JUNE 04: Hilary Duff attends the "Younger" Season 5 Premiere Party at Cecconi's Dumbo on June 4, 2018 in Brooklyn, New York. (Photo by Jamie McCarthy/Getty Images)

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Working mother of two, Hilary Duff recently dropped some very real and emotional thoughts on breastfeeding to her Instagram account - a message that, doubtless, many working moms can relate to.

She talked about the struggle and the stress of deciding to stop breastfeeding her six-month-old daughter Banks.

“My goal was to get my little girl to six months and then decide if I (and her of course) wanted to keep going.”

Pumping and breastfeeding at work became a constant source of stress for the new mom who found it hard to scratch out time or privacy, a frustration many working moms in many career fields share.

“I had zero down time and am usually pumping in a hair and make up trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around. Even if I had the luxury to be in my own room, it’s not even considered a “break” because you have to sit upright for the milk to flow into the bottles!”

Duff also acknowledged how grateful and privileged she felt to be afforded the ability to breastfeed for as long as she did, or at all.

“I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to and for that I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could.”

The emotional toll of the decision was one she decided was important to share with other mothers.

THIS ONE’S FOR THE LADIES Just a few thoughts that I wanted to share on Breast-feeding. Last week was my last week nursing Banks (my six month old) I am a working mom of two. My goal was to get my little girl to six months and then decide if I (and her of course) wanted to keep going. Let me tell you. Pumping at work sucks. I had zero down time and am usually pumping in a hair and make up trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around. Even if I had the luxury to be in my own room, it’s not even considered a “break” because you have to sit upright for the milk to flow into the bottles! Plus you are having your damn nipples tugged at by an aggressive machine that makes an annoying sound, that echoes through your head day and night (I swear that machine and I had many conversations at midnight and 3 am)! Ttttthen having to find someplace to sterilize bottles and keep your milk cold (ok I’m done with that rant lol)! Anyway, I didn’t know this because with Luca I didn’t work until he was about nine months old, so I didn’t pump very often. Your milk supply drastically drops when you stop feeding as often and lose the actual contact and connection with your baby (--). So I was eating all the feunugreek goats butt blessed thistle fennel cookies/drops/shakes/pills I could get my hands on! It was maddening. (Does fenugreek make anyone else smell like maple syrup and rubber gloves?...not chill) With all of this complaining, I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to and for that I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could. For six wonderful months. But I needed a break. I was going to break. With the stress of a dropping milk supply and a baby that was getting bored or not caring about nursing when I was available to. I was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time. When really I’m a bad ass rock star. Moms get high on feeling like superwoman...because we are! Doing too much, because we can! KEEP READING in the comments below ----♥️

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“I wanted to share this because deciding to stop BFing was so emotional and hard. I thought about it ALL day everyday. It was a constant loop in my head. Weighing the pros and cons. And half of the time I wasn’t making any sense.”

Women were quick to engage with the post, leaving hundreds of thousands of comments and likes within 24 hours of it being published.

“Made me cry reading this! You’re spot on.. I went through such similar emotions and had no idea weaning would feel so emotional and sad,” one follower commented.

We think Hilary Duff said it best in this timely post just ahead of Mother’s Day -

“I was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time. When really I’m a bad ass rock star. Moms get high on feeling like superwoman...because we are! Doing too much, because we can! … Whether you are pre or postpartum. Or just a busy mom, You are a ... everyday for all that you do. Always putting yourself last and running a mile a minute...while carrying all of the bags lol.”

And in case you’re wondering, Banks is thriving, Duff is "fine and happy," and everybody is getting to spend a little more quality time together.